It's truely sad to hear of your husband's sudden death.

Yes it is so true that it's the ones you leave behind that suffer most of the consequences of the death. And for this I think it is wise to be open to talk about it and prepare, just as you say.

Oh yes the Native Indian way living off grid is fascinating.. I do not know too much but have always loved thier traditional thoughts of Mother Nature and would love to learn more... Something I'll have to look into, especially around their thoughts on living and death.

Yes I understand what you feel with the sentiment of people being surprised about god's kingdom and I've heard all of that regally. However I believe that perhaps we won't and that people who have a god belief may be surprised with the awakening of the lack of god.

I am glad my thoughts have helped you with examining and clarifying things for you.
Thank you @firststeps for you thoughts and experiences. All the best.