This low-level thinking is destroying your life.
Whatever one believes, his future life will be closer to.
There are always many people around us who question all success and all beauty.
"He succeeded, but he did not have a rich father."
"The last salary increase was her, and this promotion is her. There must be some background."
"His son read Beijing No. 4 Middle School and did not know how much money he had sent."
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After the publication of Wang Shuo's Knowledgeable Elements, there was a period of inner analysis.——
I don't know when we will start to feel at ease about everything in our society.
It seems that only in this way can we prove that all our expectations are correct, and find a reasonable excuse for always being "cold-shouldered", "unsuccessful" and "living at the bottom"...
It also proves that he has a good wit, and always has a pair of eyes that know the world.
All you see is what you want to see.
Recently, I read The Terrible Illusion written by psychologist McKee, and I realized what this phenomenon is all about.
After studying many people's experiences, McKee came up with a concept: what you see is what you want to see.
When a person's heart is filled with certain emotions, his heart will bring strong personal preference hints, which will lead to the subject to prove from the object.
"When we like someone or something, our mind will let us search for evidence in reality, and then use these specious evidence to support our psychological expectations, and finally form a psychological stereotype of'really so'. If we are angry, hateful or doubtful, we will continue to look for materials to strengthen our imagination, in the paranoid anger, hatred, so that temporarily suppressed emotions can be vented.
That is to say,——
The world we see is just what we choose to see.
You can see what you believe.
If you believe in money rules, you will find countless money rules.
If you believe in injustice, you will find innumerable injustices.
And you believe in hard work, and you will find that hard work really pays off.
If you believe in beauty, you will find that life is beautiful everywhere.
What you believe is what you become
McKee also found that a person's future life will be close to what he believes.
"A person's life is just like what he thinks every day. What do you think, what do you expect, and what kind of life do you have?"
Reflecting on this sentence, we find that this is true in real life.
Yu Minhong, the founder of New Oriental, wrote an article entitled Believing in the Power of Struggle, in which he talked about his experience.
When he was in high school, his teacher said to all his classmates, "None of you here will be able to enter the university. In the future, all of you will be farmers."
Many students believe that. Either drop out of school or give up on one test.
But Yu Minhong does not believe that the stratum will be solidified forever. He only believes that hard work and struggle will pay off eventually. Therefore, if he fails to pass the exam once, he will take the second one, but not the third one. Finally, he was admitted to Peking University, and his life changed from then on.
You bet.
In this world, what a person believes, his future life will be close to.
What you believe, you can see; what you see, you can embrace; what you embrace, you can become.
Believe in the Power of Belief
Lu Xinning, Vice President of People's Daily, was invited by his alma mater to give a speech at Peking University.
In her speech, she said something from the heart:
"My only fear is that you no longer believe it. Do not believe that rules can overcome potential rules, do not believe that the academic field is different from the official field, do not believe that academic is not equal to power, do not believe that the wind bone is far better than the charming bone..."
"Doubt everything and lose everything." This is not a high-pitched song, but a sincere one.
I like Gu Cheng's poem very much: "You don't want to plant flowers. You said, I don't want to see it, a little withered. Yes, in order to avoid the end, you avoid all the beginning.
The narrower our way of life is, the more often it is not because we are not smart enough, but because we no longer believe, because we no longer believe, and avoid all good beginnings.
What you believe is your destiny.
I remember one winter afternoon when I took a taxi home, and as soon as I got on the bus, I found it very warm, with sachets and decorations hanging in it.
As soon as I sat down, the driver asked, "Are you cold? I have a hand warmer.
As soon as the car started, the driver asked, "Are you hungry? I have snacks.
In the traffic jam, the driver handed over several magazines: "You turn over."
I was shocked by the service: "When did you start this service?"
The driver said, "From the moment I woke up."
Previously, he was a man who liked to question everything: "This society is too unfair." "Without money and power, nothing works."
One day, he listened to a radio program and said, "If you want to change your life, you should change yourself first." If you think the world is too dark, everything that happens will make you unhappy.
"So I decided to stop complaining and treat every guest well." In the past, his business was very ordinary, and he was often complained about, but now his business is booming, and countless passengers are rushing to book his car.
He said, "When I change myself, the world becomes better. Everyone I meet seems to be my noble man."
When I got off the bus, he said something that I'll never forget: "You believe in your destiny."
From Belief to Belief, Behind is Knowledge and Pattern
As a child, it is easy to believe, but it is very unreasonable to be easily trusted by education. It is a simple, naive and insightless behavior.
After a little experience, I found that in an increasingly incredible adult world, the more knowledgeable people are, the easier they are to believe. If you tell them anecdotes and absurd ideas, they will think, well, interesting.
The more people know, because often out of their own small world, know that there are so many people and lives different from their own, there are countless colorful life, and brilliant dreams.
They believe that there are people in this world who live a different life, and do not easily make a judgment and make a conclusion, and do not "how is it possible?" "Speak up.
Now the world, to make people believe, is really a very difficult thing.
I also met so many interesting people after I went out of the original small world. Only then did I know that there were so many people who had no utilitarianism. People only want to believe in people who share their own values, and regard everything else as hypocrisy.
People can only see where they can reach, and imagine dangerous places beyond reach.
Even, only willing to believe that a useful heart is responsible heart, all seemingly useless feelings as false feelings. Once people don't believe in the truth, they can't have faith.
From easily believing to questioning everything, there is a light of reason. Then, from not believing everything to willing to believe again, there is knowledge and pattern behind it.
Everyone's destiny is different. Choosing to believe is a destiny, and not believing is also a destiny. Life is getting narrower and narrower, not because it is not smart enough, but because it is no longer believed.
If we can't be the sun, we will follow it.
So, you must also keep that light and heat in your heart. Even if you are covered by dark clouds, you will have a sword in your body. You don't need to expect the clouds to disperse. Sooner or later, they will be pierced by you.
If we can't see the sun, we will become the sun. If we can't, we will chase the sun.
I like the meaning of this passage very much.——
What a person believes, his future life will be close to.
You can see what you believe.
You can embrace what you see.
What do you embrace, what can you become?
What you believe in is your destiny.