Online dating for dummies: Part I

in #psychology7 years ago (edited)

Here is the 1st part of dating online. In the introduction I talked about #1: Knowing your target and #2: Listen . Please read them if you haven't so the next steps will have a lot more meaning.

Step #3: Feel

Women feel if you're just trying to get them in bed. Make real statements and compliment her in a playfull manner rather than a very serious one( for example you won't say " I really like your hair" that's reserved for face-to-face contact, you will say " I really like how you do your hair in the photos, looks a lot like Shakira" the comparison or any connection will be based on step #2).
Don't overdo it and don't think too much about it. If you can read your messages and say that they sound a litlle cheesy well you're on the good road.
If you can't state that about what you say or the way you say things well she won't be able either. Imagine that over 70% of contacts that start on the Internet end up as a friendship because of the way we talk. We get friendly, we don't spice things up and we end up in a big friendzone.

Step #4: Building trust

This is so far the most delicate step of the whole process. Imagine that you're a girl and a guy starts to text you. You will reply in a very conservative way. You will want to protect yourself from any dangers that a guy you don't trust should pose. That is why girls seem so mean and cold in the start. It's your job to change that.
It all starts with some manipulation. Yeah, I know it sounds so big haha. Let me explain, in negociation the person that has the trust of the other party rulles everything. If you trust someone it's easier for you to accept new terms.
So how will you do that? Well there are certain laws in manipulation that you can use.
The one we will explain is the The law of similarity . It goes like this: You are more prone to trust someone that shares ideas, believes with you, that dress in a similar way, that talk in similar way---- the ones witch you can identify youself with.
How do we use this to our advantage?
Well after going trough step #2 you'll know about what she likes and it's easy to use that. For example you could say that you love dogs like she does and it's easier to propose an activity that she won't decline( let's walk our dogs in the park). You can start to use the same expression, use the same emoji or even doing the same sports. It's all up to you.
This step is very dangereous because this will make or brake your future relationship.
You can't build up too much trust so she will use you as a crying shoulder or too litlle or she won't convery her feelings to you. It's a fragile equilibirum that it's hard to mantain in this phase, afterwards it will be your biggest ace.( Imagine using the fact that she trust you for stealing a kiss and such)

That is all for today, stay tuned subscribe and feel free to ask anything dating related, I will help you the best I can.

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Nice idee @magdaspaul

But the best trick is just to go take action. If that does not work change state of mind, and the univers will reward. Thier is many good guides but the public place is the best to start dating. Here in pattaya its not hard at all.

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Best regards

This guide is made for those who won't take actions if they're not sure about the outcome. It's an easy way to start dating and get a general ideea about how to do this if you can't do it alone.
Thanks for your reply, I hope you follow me back :D I will post about manipulation alone, negociation and even more so stay tuned!

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