Interesting issues! A friend of mine is asexual, but wants her own biological child, and has gone into debt the past several years trying, and trying, and trying again with sperm donors, in vitro, and more. She won't try the conventional method of conceiving, doesn't want a partner, had more than one month-long breakdown over the failure of a fertilzed egg to attach and grow. I cannot even fathom this passion of hers, the long, long quest. She'd be a single parent. No partner. She refuses to give up. I'd show her your post (and thank you for sharing your thoughts here!), but it would likely just upset her.