The 5 Hardest Things About Relationships (And How to Overcome Them)

The 5 Hardest Things About Relationships (And How to Overcome Them)

We all want and need close relationships with other people; they’re an important part of any happy life. But while many people can form deep and lasting connections with others, it can sometimes be hard to maintain those relationships over time, even with the most well-intentioned efforts on both sides. If you feel like your relationship or friendships aren’t as strong as they could be, try these five tips to see if you can improve them!

1. You are responsible for your partner’s happiness
   The number one mistake that many people make in relationships is thinking they have responsibility for their partner’s happiness. A relationship will only be successful if both partners are happy within it. While you can do your best to help, love and care for your partner, it ultimately comes down to them if they choose to be happy or not. It’s essential not to blame yourself when things don’t work out, especially if there was nothing more you could have done.

2. Long-distance relationships are not possible
   This is something that even most couples in long-distance relationships will tell you. It is not a relationship if you cannot see each other regularly, according to Dr. John Gottman, from his book Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How You Can Make Yours Last.

3. Know when to leave
   Statistics on breakups show that 50% of couples get divorced within five years. So, how do you know when a relationship is over? Generally, if it’s no longer fun or healthy for you, it’s time to move on. Of course, there’s more to a relationship than just being happy—you have social ties and children with your partner.

4. To be loved, be lovable
   This is rule No. 1 for being a successful relationship partner. If you want love, be lovable. Simple as that. But, believe it or not, there are numerous people out there who just don’t know how to be lovable and genuinely care about other people’s feelings. Some think that if they do their fair share of work around the house, or they support their partner in whatever they need, then they’re automatically lovable. Not so fast!

5. Don’t give up until you find the right person
   finding the one might be easier said than done, but if you’re serious about meeting your soul mate and creating a fulfilling relationship, you must keep at it. The fact is that not everyone wants to settle down, so consider yourself lucky if you find a good match. If they’re not ready yet, be patient—keep searching and don’t give up. Don’t settle for anything less than what you really want.