Thanks for sharing your very personal thoughts and feelings about this issue. It's a real shame societies/governments don't support certain lifestyles and that this influences decisions that 'conventional' couples don't even have to think about.

I can imagine you are hesitant about becoming a parent but have no real way to make that official. If two strangers can adopt a child, why shouldn't you be able to co-adopt a child with your chosen partners?

I wish you luck and wisdom in making a decision in this that works for you and your loved ones.