Teaching teenage girls about sex

So as I mentioned in my introduction, I took in my cousin who is 15, almost 16. Dealing with a teenager has been a constant trip down memory lane. Trying to remember the things I went through in high school to help her through my experiences. Today was one of those 'light at the end of the tunnel' moments.

She started a conversation with 'my friend Braden messaged me last night.' We were watching Bones and they were showing an episode that cased teen pregnancy. I guess that's what reminded her of this conversation. Braden had messaged her sayin his girlfriend was pregnant what should he do, she's pregnant from the guy she was with before me.

I'll let that sink in. Teenage drama.

She told him 'I've never been in this situation so I don't really know.' She said the gist of the next messages were the young girl self aborted and there was blood everywhere then that she was headed to the hospital.

Oh my. So much information to inform her on and start talking about all in the blink of an eye.

Let's look into the teen world in our country. A 14 year old girl is sexually and not properly educated in protecting herself. Teens faced with being parents and a teen guy faced with the decision to either step away before the relationship goes further or deciding to be a teen father to a child that's not his. Teens looking to other teens for advise instead of going to the parents. This makes me sad.

Mine and my daughters conversation gave me lots of hope for at least some glimmer of intelligence in a teen lol. We talked about a woman's feelings about finding out she's pregnant regrdless of the stage the fetus is in. When teens should be having sex and why. And my desire for her to tell me if and when her and her boyfriend decide to have sex so we can get her protection that's best suited for her.

I hope this post reaches more than just a few parents and we realize that making sex taboo and bad isn't safe for our children anymore. We need to talk to them about the good things not just the bad. We need to talk to them about practicality not fantasy.