.........thinking About Commitment

When the wind is blowing across the face of your relationship, such that your eyes can’t see straight, when your head is in second place, stay down in the process until you find a way. Wait don’t stray until you see that smile

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Many men as husbands are supposed to almost always, stay strong in their commitment to their vows, with the thoughts of their relationship with their partners, getting them stocked on the promises they made to their spouse and partners.

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But the bond when noticed to have been built should be stocked on a strengthen relationship, A relationship that births a high level of security, to their spouse and partners, even in trying times and nasty trends of massive difficulty.

As much as many will laugh it off, it’s most probably true that most couples are mandated to stay together by a force of compulsion that might emanate from different reasons depending on the sequential trend of eventuality as things slide.

But when a truce for been together is cultivated out of a culture of love and respect, it is only natural and that relationship will mature into a firm footing of fun and ecstasy over the process of time.

It should therefore be noted in clear terms, that if you are committed to a relationship and you allow yourself to be wronged, you should forgive and apologize, only view the problematic issue as an obstacle not an ice breaker. But why should you allow yourself to be wronged or offended in the first place? When you can decide otherwise.

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Notice this, a partner with a low level of commitment, are most probable to decide to leave their eyes out, observing the wind watching the mirror, with an insight on the rear view. Birthing a thought sequence that might expand the exit route, and drawing up a fallback backup plan of breakup or Divorce.

With the possibility of divorce and break up hinged on the walls of the mind of many in a relationship, commitment looks rust and dusty from the birth of the beginning. This might invent a drag and resistance that might over time create frictional issues overtime.

Testing your emotions right at the middle of the collision and confusion with your partner when disputes rages, might help in been with the pragmatic parameters that help you recalibrate yourself.

You might wish to ask yourself some question, question that might stand up to become a litmus test.

• Do sick and nasty thoughts flash through your mind when issues come up?
• Do you regret your decision towards you relationship or your marriage as a mistake?
• Do you sleepwalk or daydream about this thought cloud in the skies of your mind?

How that you would have been better off if you have gotten stocked on someone else from your past.

• Is the image of someone else painting picture portrait in your mind’s frame?
• Do you view yourself at the edge of the wind or at verge of a decision to decide against your relationship?
• Do you hear an inner second guessing voice, suggesting options that might lead you to someone that might be somewhat more appreciative?

If your answer to one or a few more of the above questions is positive, then your commitment to your relationship is both shaky and edgy and you might be at the verge of breaking or blowing it all up. But the news might turn out good, if you decide to have it fixed.

You can have yourself helped out of this nasty and ugly situation by:

• Writing an (sms) to your partner while they are at work, might ignite a flow of fluid down his/her spin. If you say you are in love put it in a love song, or write in a letter or better still you could text them on their cell phone.
• Having you partner called a bit more often while they are away from you might tend to birth a waves of passion towards you in their hindsight. 

Most of all build a stream of communication that might never be broken.

And please never you forget to be reminded always that, communication is the live wire of every form relationship.