I love that you mentioned sports that are not team based. My children are competitive swimmers and dancers. When they compete they are against other people but also against themselves. Their goal is to beat their last time and set new personal bests. At the same time, it is important for there athletes to demonstrate good sportsmanship. You must always play fair and understand how to win with grace and lose with dignity. It is those “good” coaches who can help with that. Thanks for such a thoughtful response.