How to get over a breakup (Tips on moving on quickly)

in #steemitdiversify7 years ago (edited)

Hello everyone!
This post will give you some tips and advice on how to get over your ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend and get on with your life as quickly as possible.

To begin with, I need to give you an unfortunate news, and that's all breakups regardless of the circumstances are painful to some degree. There are no magic solution or quick fix that will make your heartache disappear over night. There are however a few things that you can do to help suppress the post breakup emotions and help you forget your ex as quickly as possible.

First step is to ACCEPT THE REALITY OF THE SITUATION. It's not helpful or productive to deny the reality that you and your partner are no longer together. Nor is it to do any good to try and talk things over your ex and work it out. Instead at this point, try to own up the situation that you are facing and accept the fact that your ex is no longer a focal point of your life.

During this early stage, it is not good to talk to your ex at all to be honest. In particular, you want to avoid begging, pleading, apologizing, and generally just trying to talk your way to convincing him to reverse the decision or looking for a closure, whatever it may be. I don't recommend talking to your ex for a while after the breakup.

Now moving on, once you've come to the grips of the reality of your situation, it's time to remove all visible reminders of your ex. There's nothing worse than being reminded of a painful memory every time you walk into your bedroom or you know, enter the house. Which is why one of the most important ways on how to move on is to remove all the visible reminders around your house and just generally out of your life. So that means, take down the photos, love notes, put away the gifts that your ex gave you, and just generally store in a safe and far away place and leave that there until you are ready to open that again.

You should also make sure to hide or mute your ex's status updates on social media sites like Facebook, twitter, Instagram and etc. That will make sure you are not reminded by your ex every time you log in and look at your news feed.

If you are struggling with self control, and you can't seem to stop yourself from texting or calling your ex, I also recommend writing down your ex's phone number on a piece of paper and giving it to a friend and just delete it in your phone completely. You don't need to contact your ex right now like I said and deleting your ex's contact info is a really good way to make sure that you won't do something dumb and send a message that you would regret and so on.

And now with all your reminders of your ex completely removed from your life, the next step is to STAY BUSY and keep yourself occupied at all times. It's best to keep busy with work, school, hobbies, any other activities basically that will keep your mind off your ex. Stay busy even if it's just watching your favorite TV show, playing video games, take your mind off the breakup.

You should also lean to your family and friends at this point, avoid being alone. You don't want to be alone and sit alone and think about your ex.so go out with friends, spend time with your family, even if it's the last thing that you feel like doing. Just go out and do it. Trust me when I say that being social and just getting out there with your friends and your family is one of the best and most effective ways on getting over the breakup.

These are just some of my tips on how to get over a breakup. I'm sorry if ever one of you is currently on this stage. Know that there's always a reason on why these things happen. Believe that better days are coming and most importantly, believe in GOD. Believe that he has better plans for you and that he his making you a better person. So that one day, when you are all healed and happy, the right person comes in the right time :)

If you have any tips on how to move on, feel free to leave a comment. Our friends from Steemit would really appreciate it :)

Thanks for your time.
Lots of love, Ana xx

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yes it is painful. after having cancer but thankfully recovering, my gf got hit by new mental challenges because of the type of cancer she had. After trying so hard and trying and been patient with the mood swings she pushed me out of her life despite my willingness to find a way so yeah keeping busy for me right now helps a bit but it is difficult when the one you love has been lost through a tragic drama. i do like the advice ion your post though :)

I’m sorry to hear that my friend ☹️ Thank you for reading my post, just stay strong. Things will get better. Praying for your gf’s fast recovery 🙏🏻

Thank you for the tips my dear! I really need this because until now, i haven’t moved on from my ex. I’ll try these steps, hope it’ll work on me! Keep on posting interesting topics :) i’m really lovinng your blogs! Steem on!

aaaaw sorry to hear that :( i'm sure the right one will come and you will be the happiest girl :) just love yourself and do your best to make yourself better. God bless you! hope you are having a good day :)

Thank you 😭 i really need anfriend like you. You’re so kind. Thaaanks ;) just reading your blog made me happy, i’m having a good day! Thanks to you my dear friend :)

you can talk to me if you need someone to talk to :) i'd be very happy to listen :)

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Aw! I really needed this as I am on the stage of moving on hehe. Thanks for this friend 😊

hope my post helped :) sorry to hear that but trust me someone better is coming. someone who will do everything just to make you happy :) God bless.

Thank you my friend 😉

now u say.. where were u when i got dumped in college by my first gf?! :P i thought that life was ending..

@chinito pleeease resteem my posts hehehe thaanks

i usually don't resteem any posts cuz it makes it hard to find the person't actual post when u go to their blog. Terry (@surpassinggoogle) is an awesome guy, but trying to find one of his posts among the 100's he re-steems each day.. that is very hard and takes a loooooooooooong time.. :P

but i will keep upvoting u. have u joined the PH team on discord yet? Here's the link.. https://discord.gg/AkeHd2Z

DM (message) me when u on, i am chinito on there too, and say hi. :)

Okaaaay 😁 haha thank yooou @chinito ☺️

Oops! Sorry to hear that ✌🏻 Haha

u said sorry, but then u laugh at me?! :P just joke.

Hahahahaha just joking ✌🏻😂

i havent experience any breakup yet and i do not wish to experience it ever haha! 😂

Good to hear that! 😁 Break up is really painful but it can also teach you some lessons.

great tips. I know a lot of peeps from my team who will benefit from this haha :D
If two people parted ways, maybe it is destiny and is not meant to be. That is why there is "Good" in Goodbyes ;)

Yes! That’s true. Definitely agree with that! Share this post to some of your team, it may help them move on haha thank you! 😁

I've experienced such before lol but yeah it gives us good lessons to learn in the future. Better move on :)

Exactly! Para next time wala nang breakup haha