My girls are using me well. When I am home they run around in circles. When I clean up after them, they go and create the mess all over again. I get tired and sleep easier that way but they will play on pass midnight. No to them means be disobedient until dad says yes. Of course mother is boss so what she does the kids always listens. Now ask them to do chores... can I do a redo... Where is the reset button on those kids.