This is a Marvelous Post! I absolutely agree that some of the translations in our Western Culture of the practice of Non-Attachment are indeed a bypass. Not that it is even intentionally a result. I was lucky enough when I delved deeply into the practice of Buddhism to meet a friend who grew up in a Temple on the East Coast of the United States. He was very patient with my questions, and probably spent hours typing out responses to assist me with my understanding. The misinterpretation that is most popular in our community is exactly what you are writing about, the need to get to a point where they feel no emotion.

I had the opportunity (and blessing) to volunteer and prepare a meal for a Rinpoche who was touring the West Coast, USA. I was so nervous that I would do something "wrong." I just knew he would be able to see through whatever it was I imagined was wrong with me. :-) When it came time to serve him, I was astounded by the childlike Joy and Happiness he radiated. It literally was like a drug just being in his presence. I relaxed and found myself completely present as he almost licked the bowl of the Forbidden Rice dish I prepared for him. We sat by the Lake and breathed and just took in the surroundings. It was one of the most peaceful moments of my life. I later learned that he was not allowed to ask for more, but he had tried to signal me in subtle ways that he "desired" another serving. The profound lack of attachment to not being heard, or not getting what he wished did not change his energy or experience in any noticeable way. That beautiful Man is my posterboard for non-attachment.