坏人的进化史

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坏人是天生的,还是后天养成的?

——Carmen C

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丨图片来源:《Penny Dreadful》(又译:低俗怪谈、英国恐怖故事)下同

所谓坏人,分三个层次:

第一层:天性使然,坏而不自知。
第二层:懵懵懂懂,坏而自知。
第三层:坏而自知,并以此为乐。

第一层的坏人,由于缺乏良知和责任感,并不知道自己的所作所为会对别人造成伤害,可能只是出于猎奇心理或者寻求刺激。比如:吃了饭就走“忘记付钱”,在超市“顺”点东西,出差约个特殊服务,以狩猎女性为乐的一类群体等。这一层的坏人并不可怕,因为在生活中,他们在绝大多数情况下所展现出的是个好人,应该说他们在表面上和内心深处还是把自己装进好人的壳子里。只是每个人都有控制不住自己欲望的时候,他们在短暂的“作恶”间隙中寻求对自我的放松。殊不知,这种放松只是一种放纵。

第二层的坏人和第一层的区别在于,他们感受到了别人因为自己犯下的恶而受到伤害,而这种伤害唤起了自身的同情心,从而开始反思自己这么做是不是做错了。比如:他们让妻子在深夜流泪,让女朋友为他们在胳膊上刻下一道道伤痕,让周围人逐渐对他们失望。很多人开始骂他们了,庆幸的是,别人还对他们还保留着一丝希望。这一层的坏人是迷茫的,他们可能因为周围人的咒骂或者疏离而更加暴戾,进阶为第三层的超级坏人;也可能因为周围人的原谅而重新拾起良知和责任,做回被别人需要的普通好人。

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值得提醒的是,如果你正在面对第一二层坏人,你有两个选择:
第一、无法原谅于是彻底放弃TA,任由其自甘堕落,倒也落个清闲;
第二、选择原谅,不计前嫌把TA拉回来。

但是啊,原谅是一个漫长而艰苦地过程,很多人因为情分一开始选择原谅,然后又因为TA屡教不改愈做愈恶,转而陷入了和坏人的战斗,这样既不能完成救赎,反而让自己十分痛苦。特别是,你温柔地对待过一个人,然后又开始对TA恶语相向了,不管你的恶语是不是因为对方犯下不可饶恕的罪恶,以恶制恶只是让两个人都陷入深渊。如果选择原谅,无论中途发生什么,请一直坚持下去。

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请记住,谁犯下的错应该由TA自己承担,你本不应该为别人犯下的错而惩罚自己。

第一二层的坏人还是有救的,因为他们的内心还有一丝敏感,存在被救赎的可能。而第三层的坏人,基本上已经是自我放弃了,清楚地知道自己在做什么并以作恶为乐,想要唤醒他们的良知比登天还难,可以直接放弃(qiāngbì)。具体可参照《沉默的羔羊》中的连环杀手“野牛比尔”。

回到一开始的问题:坏人是天生的,还是后天养成的?

其实绝大多数情况下坏人是后天养成的,也是有药可救的。没有被社会温柔地对待过,没有被周围的人相信和鼓励过,导致自己也缺乏了做回好人的勇气,在作恶的道路上越行越远,最终迷失了自己。

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