I guess, your reply aimed at Abigail? but as you quoted me, I feel talked to :)

Yes, I have known the "shadow" Jung called that for a very long time, actually since my youth, when my good friend once mentioned that what we reject only annoys us so much because we recognized ourselves in it. Jung is right if he thought that was dangerous, because it is probably one of the most difficult insights someone dares to admit. For me, anger is a great indicator when I get terribly upset about another person in social interaction. Then I say to myself as a rule: If it upsets you so much, what does it have to do with you? Basically, something that we don't know or haven't experienced can't really excite us. You cannot judge the taste of bananas, nor be angry or delighted if you have never eaten bananas. So it is always an anchor for me to take a step back and reflect on myself when my feelings are aroused and I could then indulge and say to myself: "Oh well, I only have "bananas" :) Laugh!

To answer your last question: Yes, you do :D, we all do that. Good to know, yes?