You dirty stupid dumbass! Get out of here and shut the fuck up!!!

That is violence, correct?

How do you prefer to be talked to?

What are you supposed to do when you get stuck in a negative loop without wanting?
Say, when you have a conflict with another one who accuses you of something you weren't even aware of doing, what is your reaction? Because the other perceived you as a harmful or ignorant person. What would you do? Would you try to solve the conflict? How would you do that, without strengthening the conflict?

Are you telling me that you don't want to rely on your perception? But that is what you and I are doing every day of our lives. You have your perception and I have mine.

I have a question: When you would have to consult a couple from another culture and where the woman is pregnant and her husband does not want that she gives birth in a clinic because other men could see and embarrass her. How would you create a winning situation for all participants involved? I mean to acknowledge their culture and not violate the present culture where they live in at the same time. Do you have a solution for that? What would be the objective view on that? Is there a difference between an objective and a systemic view?

I wanted to encourage you to take your time and experiment with this view on a personal level.

There is no strict usage of this view even in sight. And that is also not meant. It is an ideal which should be idealistic in order to shoot at this goal. One never will reach it fully. But if you are lacking an ideal form of communication, where do you put yourself for orientation?

Let's take a scale where 1 is the worst way of communication (always nay-saying, rejecting everything and using violent speech) and 10 the best way (using non-violent communication, considering the possibility that another perception might have its point, choosing cooperation instead of separation). What is your life experience telling you? That you rarely get to 10, isn't that so? Which is okay because we are not flawless. Would it be okay for you to move somewhere in the middle?

The systemic view offers in its practical applications a middle way. At least in the realm, I am practicing.

Thanks for commenting and annoying me :-)