So, if you give more money to women blogging about STEM out of your pocket it's pity. If SteemStem does that, it's motivation! Do you see the hypocrisy in that?

Of course you do, but you don't want to point that out. Because the first directly impacts yourself while the other not only doesn't impact you but also makes you (in your mind) sound like the good, white knight who had the brilliant idea to think of the poor women.

Personally, if I was a woman, I would definitely be offended if some guy was asking people to pay me more just because I was born with a vagina.