My Story Part 2; Red Flags

I was going through my morning routine and realized I hadn’t heard from my boyfriend. I called him. I texted him. No response. I tried later on in the day.He picked up the call and we had a rather weird straight forward “cold” conversation; “How are you doing”..”good”..”What are you up to”..”nothing”…”ok i was just checking up on you”..”ok thanks”..”bye”..”bye”. This went on for a whole week! Clearly there was something amiss.The most annoying part was I kept asking what was wrong and his said nothing.

After that week (when he was over whatever that was) he came back acting all normal like I had dreamed up the whole week that had just gone by. I chose not to drag it anymore so I let it slide; now I know I shouldn’t have…

“ALWAYS FORCE YOURSELF TO TALK/ADDRESS ANYTHING AND EVERYTHING”

..and thats how you move forward in my opinion.Otherwise you are stuck in one spot, no progress and then it actually gets worse. In my case thats what happened; it got worse.The next time he got upset about something else, it went over a week; and so on.

Another time, he cussed out another driver on the road because he had crossed him recklessly and according to him, we could have died.Thus when I said he had gone overboard with the cussing, he was angry at me for not seeing the situation from his point of view. Yes I know the other driver did wrong but I was very uncomfortable with the words he chose to use to cuss him out…

“NO MATTER HOW MAD/ANGRY YOU ARE WHO YOU ARE DETERMINES HOW YOU HANDLE SITUATIONS”

..for this reason alone, I was uncomfortable with the driver situation not only because of just that incident, but because I was looking at a bigger picture of who he was and I wasn’t really feeling good with who I was concluding he’d be. I pushed it to the back of my mind. I guess I wasn’t trusting my gut feeling.

One other crazy event would be when I passed by his before work wearing my favorite colorful sneakers. According to him, they were running shoes and not shoes I could/should wear to work. He was actually annoyed and “demanded” I take them off because he said so! I couldn’t believe my ears…

“SET YOUR BOUNDARIES FROM THE BEGINNING”

…because although I walked out without taking them off, I didn’t let it register that it was not okay with me for him to talk or demand things the way he had done.

The relationship wasn’t all bad though. It still had some parts of when we were getting to know each other; the going out and trying new things, the Netflix and chill etc. It was fun for awhile.

6 months into it, he dropped the marriage line again; it was more of a statement and not a proposal (lol..yep🤷🏾‍♀️)

And then preparations began….