Being Feminine

in #story7 years ago

One dude was gisting me about a blind date he had, he said he had been chatting with the girl for one month and that he got the girl's contact when he mistakenly dialed a wrong number. The girl picked up and explained politely to him that it was a wrong number he called, he said she had the sweetest voice he had ever heard and he was mesmerized.
Things escalated quickly from there and he started calling her everyday, they were exchanging messages talking about sweet nothings. It looked like they had fallen in love.

They kept making arrangements to meet each other but things kept getting in the way and he was really getting impatient to meet the love of his life, finally the day came for them to finally see each other, they arranged to meet at an eatery at the center of the town. Dude said he was so excited and nervous, his friend accompanied him and they arrived at the venue an hour before time to wait for his princess.

His date arrived and called him that she was inside the eatery and he asked her what she was wearing, he said he saw a girl wearing the exact description of what she gave him but he said it couldn't be her. His friend was already snorting and choking in his bid to hold his laughter but he told his friend to chill that the girl climbing those stairs wasn't the girl he had been speaking with so he stood up and approached the girl, tapped her and said "Are you Jane" she smiled at him and said yes. The girl tried to hug him and he ducked, instead he gave her his hands for a handshake and led her to their table. According to him he said the girl was so fat and obese and she had what he described as Christian mothers arms.

Dude said he asked the girl what she wanted and she said ice cream so he told her to wait that he would get the ice cream, the next thing he did was to fake a call and walked out of the eatery then he dialed his friend's number and told him to come out and that he was getting out of there. The friend stood up made an excuse and walked out and that was how they left the girl sitting there for almost an hour waiting for them. She came out to look for him and couldn't find him then she started calling his line but he refused to pick his call and instead blocked her number.

Dude was feeling fly, he gave himself a pat on the back for being very smart but all I could see was a narcissistic bastard, an insensitive fool and a delusional idiot who needed to take a very good look at the mirror. Dude is like 4ft tall( no exaggeration) he has the ugliest face I have ever seen with protruding tooth that his lips couldn't cover yet he had the confidence to shame another human because of her weight. I just couldn't believe my ears.

This is exactly how men body shame women, you see a shapeless man, that is the pure definition of ugly body shaming a girl and trying to dictate how a woman should look and I wonder if they ever get to see themselves in a mirror.

Dear women/girls never let any man make you feel bad about your body, so what if you are fat, skinny, tall, short? So what if you have a big bust or a tiny bust, so what if you have a big booty or a flat ass. Own your body, embrace it, love yourself, be obsessed with yourself, embrace your flaws, love yourself and never give anyone the opportunity to make you feel bad about yourself.

Remember there is something beautiful and enchanting about a woman who is extra confident about herself. You are special, yes you are.