What Comes In Your Mind When You Read This Line, "When A Bad Apple Spoils The Bunch"
Today I got one of my favourite newsletters from "DailyOm" and it got me thinking about a lot of things, reading the subject line, especially the meaning of the powerful word "Team Spirit"?
Team spirit is the feeling of pride and loyalty that exists among the members of a team and that makes them want their team to do well or to be the best. - Source
Steemit-Austria is My Team!
I have never been big on acting as a "perfect" or good member of any team because I feel like an egocentric loner, an independent "leader-personality" and don't like it if people tell me what to do but I am loyal when I commit to a group of people I choose to help. I would do anything to support to achieve success for every single member.
I might not be a follower but I will hold my hands wide open to give as much as I like to receive.
Those so called "Rotten Apples" exist in every society and communities and also on @steemit.
How we deal with those?
When dealing with negative people we can choose not to respond to their behavior and allow our positive behavior be an example. - Source
Food4Thought about Team Spirit!
Daily Om by Madison Taylor continues with her advice.
Because life requires that we interact with different personalities, it is not uncommon for us to encounter a situation where there is one person whose behavior may negatively impact the experiences of others. Someone who is loud and crass can interrupt the serenity of those who come together to practice peace. A team member who is pessimistic or highly critical may destroy the morale of their fellow members. One "bad apple" in your personal life can be a potent distraction that makes it difficult to focus on the blessings you've been given.
There may always be people in your life who take it upon themselves to create disruption, foster chaos and act as if they are above reproach even when, in doing so, they put a blight on their own experiences.
Bad apples only have the power to turn your lives sour if YOU let them.
What are your thoughts?
Yours @mammasitta and @massivevibration
If you think that you are not a "good member of any team because I feel like an egocentric loner" You are not alone.
I'm sure many people feel this way? Me included.
I am loyal to a fault. Most of the time.
Sometimes in life we find people who put a straw in our ears and suck our brains out! These people we should avoid politely. ;)
Yes, I agree 100% with you @molometer, me included too. I behave the same.
Pick those Apples out and feed them to the pigs! Removing toxic people is the most liberating feeling ever!
Exactly! You know IT!!!!
i do not know how to use steemit but your blog is beautiful
Please learn from all other members but do not beg for votes. Its that simple. Thank you for your kind comment but your previous comment had to be flagged mildly, just to learn.
thanks mam
you are welcome and I wish you lots of success in an honest way.
Thank you for your commitment, it is very honorable, but as I told my mother already: World is too cruel to rescue all ice bears...the more commitment one gives into something he/she will in the full sense of the word feel someone on the other side during tug of war and maybe the most disapponting moments of all to feel the ice bears dying in one's own arms, the losses, tears and lost souls.
Thanks also for mentioning the "teamspirit", I am eager to see how far it will get us. Blockchain startet as to democratize systems, but in truth we have to go though bitter pill of plutocracy...
Its a very delicate topic " team spirit" .......especially for me....it comes with tons of responsibilities I don't want to have :)
There are always people like these who are around us.
They are everywhere and no matter how much you try to change them or improve them, they will never change.
I have tried myself to change some people who were acting as a bad apple in a group of apples.
But it was like hitting a wall with my head, no matter how hard I tried, the result was futile and at the end, I was going to have a concussion if I hadn't stopped.
So what I learned is to ignore them as much as I can, and don't let them feel that we are ignoring them.
They can only change when they want to, we can never do it.
Thats new to me in my life that I don't let them feel it anymore that I ignore them
It took me quite some years to stop wanting to change everybody and started to focus on myself first of all.
I just try to be a good example, as much as possible of course.
BUT , rotten fruits need to be sorted out of the juicy, healthy ones because we want to taste the sweetness!
I don't let anyone feel that I am ignoring them because then they start to annoy us even more.
I have gone through it that's why.
I understand your point very well! I actually take this as a very helpful advice for myself.
@mammasitta i ask you how to keep my bunch safe and you did not answer i am looking for a tip i will be thankful
First step: Follow @mammasitta
Second step: Follow @sciencevienna
Third step: Follow @vasil-danev
hahahaha ! Good idea !
Oh well.....I don't know ....I think you have to find out for yourself how to keep your bunch safe. I do the same....Trying to sort out the bad ones, somehow....
I can so relate to this part! I feel the same way!
Helloooo Helloooo YOU!
I hope thats not some kind of "curse" for us :) but it gives me so much joy to help and be appreciated for my effort. I am still a lonesome wolf in a way though.
It can be a curse but I feel comfortable with it. You probably too, so keep it going!
exactly! I am also fine with it. It was more like a fun comment to call it a "curse"
Never let yourself get influenced by the bad people/things in this world ! Or you can end you up also a spoiled apple :))
Oh yes! You are one of THE team :)
Well, this can be tricky, can't it? When I run into someone who is pumping out negativity like an open fire hydrant, my first thought is this: "What has happened to this person that has put them into this state?"
It's the old "Walk a mile in their moccasins" concept. I have found that if I focus more on learning why someone is in this state, instead of focusing on the state itself, it allows me to accomplish two very important things.
Understanding is power. If I can find a way to determine the why, it places me in a position to potentially help, perhaps in only a small way, this person who is obviously hurting. Not always.
By understanding the why, it offers both insulation against that negativity and an opportunity to appreciate all of the good things in my own life, including this potential opportunity to help someone else who is struggling.
Projecting back to the person is a powerful tool. "I can feel how distressed you are in this moment." Or perhaps, "Man, I can feel how unhappy you are right now. What are you going to do?"
Turn their negativity into an opportunity to find a solution for themselves.
And sometimes, they haven't even realized that they were being so ragged. This statement comes across as cold water to their self-awareness, and can jumpstart a change in their state.
For those who seem perpetually negative, or worse - destructive - I will eventually separate myself from them physically and emotionally. While we can influence others, we cannot fix others. Knowing just how much influence we have, how to plant the seeds of self-awareness and hope, and then when it's time to break away, is an art learned over time and through experience...
Baaaaaaaaaaangggggggggggg! You nailed it!
"The five people you spend the most time with shape who you are"
Great post! It´s so important to surround yourself with positive people.
I think at first we should figure out if that person is just going through a rough time and might needs our help or if it´s simply a toxic person. Of course we can try to inspire them and use our positive behavior to be an example. If that doesn´t work, it might be better to cut that person out.
Oh dear! In recent times its just ME ME and again ME hahahaha #Justkidding! Kind off.....
anyone can change only if they want to change, no matter what kind of time anyone is going through, they will always be the same person.
If they are good, they will see it and change themselves, if they aren't they will just keep heading their way.
Well, what I´m trying to say is that a person that is going through a rough break up for example, can change his behavior and become moany and negative. If we don´t know about his circumstances and just assume and judge him as a toxic person we are doing that person wrong. Of course if they are conscious enough they will realize that shit themselves, heal their traumas and come to their senses. Not everyone is on that level of consciousness yet though so I think it´s our responsibility to at least try to get such a person back on the right way. If that won’t work we can still cut them out...
You are right, we should try for once.
;-)
This is a fabulous way of thinking and I can't agree enough!!!!
I give chances but very carefully ....
How we deal with those? - Punch them in the face of course!
There are no negative emotions, just punches in the face! And happiness!
hmmmmm ....I try then hahaha
team never means that somebody tells you what to do
it's all about discussing to reach a solution that suits the most and most of time it gives better results
Very wise words and I agree 1000% !
and I like your respectful style 10000%
Awwwwww :) Danke schön!!!!!