Have you tried with espresso in tazza grande, latte freddo a parte?

It’s true that when milk is “on the side” it’s always cold, but I’m Italian and I drink my coffee with latte freddo a parte and usually stress the freddo anyways, so it’s not that strange. But, yes, I would assume that the waiter or barista got the freddo part even if he or she dropped it while relating the order to a colleague.
What I never seem to get the hang of is the sugar order. I use sweetener and, invariably, when I specify that, the waiter or barista looks at me strangely and tells me that they always bring the whole packet of sugars anyways. When I don’t say anything, the cup arrives with just a single sugar package and I have to ask them to give me sweetener specifically. It’s scientific. I cannot win.