PARENTAL CARE

A man has confessed that looking at his mother's nakedness and watching her undress made him become a chronic masturbator.

A Nigerian man, Kolawole Ladipo has shared an intriguing message to parents concerning some habits and sexual behaviours that could ruin the life of their kids.

In a recent post, he narrated how a boy became addicted to masturbation by always seeing her mother undress before him at an early age.

Ladipo wrote:

FAMILY PORNOGRAPHY DESTROYS KIDS

"MY MUM DRESSES UP BEFORE ME"!

I counselled a young guy who was addicted to masturbation. He told me he can't do without masturbation. One thing that struck me in his confession was when he said: ''My mum caused all this for me''.

Curiosity got hold of me and I asked him, how?

He said: "I started masturbation since when I was 4 years old; my mum has always been dressing up naked before me, I am used to seeing her nakedness. I am not moved to have sex with her, but I always long to see mature ladies naked just the way I always see my mum dressing up naked before me."

"I still remember seeing her nakedness regularly till I was 8 years; and my dad do shout on her:

'Send this boy out before you dress,' but my mum would always reply by saying: 'Will my son sleep with me? Stop planting evil thought in his heart.'

"Anytime I see my mum's naked body, I long to see ladies' naked body.

I then went into sex at age 10 and till now I am not free from sex, heavy pornography and masturbation...''

Dear parents, I hope you are not guilty of this? You are dressing up before your 2 years old son/daughter; you say he/she doesn't know anything yet? That's very cruel.

Some couples will be having s*x while their close-to-2-years old child will be in their room with them; they'll feel and think that he/she can only see, he/she can't understand.

Sir/ma'am, that your child does not need to understand. Seeing your nakedness or seeing you and your spouse making love is enough to plant abnormal sexual fantasies and urge in that child. Remember, it is now a jet world!

How will you destroy your own children with your own carelessness?

Don't let your children see your nakedness.

Don't make love in the presence of your child no matter the age.

The scene sticks to the memory, they may want to explore and experiment what they are seeing.

Stop making free home-made 'sex clips or video' for your children to watch.

Mummy, sit properly.

Dress properly too.

Stop sitting as if you are in the labour room; parting your legs for your son to see your inner tight and pant.

Be very careful!

Daddy, don't wear ordinary boxer at home, you sit down, your 'thing' is dangling and your daughter is seeing it. There are things you should not wear beyond your bedroom, just for your spouse. Don't say because you want to enjoy your freedom in your house. It's not your house alone, it's a family house/home. You are putting your children into sexual bondage through these acts. The initiation starts from home.

Mummy, wearing ordinary bra around the house in the presence of your sons is dangerous. Yes, they won't lust after you, but you might be messing up with their sensuality; and increasing their curiosity to see the breasts of ladies out there.

Let's stop being 'pornographic materials' to our children. Raising sexually pure children, it begins at home.' It begins with me and you.

My Counsel:

Thank you very much for the issues raised in family porn. It is still our responsibility to build virtue into our family. We need to learn from others.

Still on building virtuous homes. Look at this:

HABITS THAT SHOW IMPROPER UPBRINGING IN CHILDREN

Please, carefully look into the list below to see where you may want to make amends on yourself or the young ones you are caring for.

Children, if not properly groomed may never get to the top in life, even if the parents are at the top of their career.

Manners take you to where your education can't take you, irrespective of your status, money or the "who you know" factor.

This is not meant to hurt anyone or pinpoint on someone for their upbringing. Its a general message targeted to all the parents of today.

1. Going to your child's school dressed indecently? Think again.

2. Speaking rashly to your child's teacher.

3. Cursing, using foul words or swearing in front of your children.

4. Using makeup on children.

5. Dressing with tight clothes and indecently for children (they loose the sense of their princesshood and may not listen to you in future)

7. Your child holds the cup or glassware by the brim and you don't make a correction.

8. Your children don't greet and you just feel they will come around one day because they have a mood swing. (You will be blamed for it)

9. Your children eat with their mouth opened and you feel they will grow up some day.

10. Your children brought home something you did not buy for them and you said nothing. (That is the beginning of stealing)

11. They talked back at you and you concluded it's okay since you're a 21st century mummy. (You will hate yourself if they do that outside and they are disciplined)

12. They interrupt when you are speaking with another adult and you think they are bold and clever. (It's really bad manners)

13. They exercise authority over their nanny and domestic staff and you let them be. (That is bad parenting)

14. They say things like "my driver is on his way..."

I am not an advocate that children should call your domestic staff aunty or brother but, calling them by names when they are not young people is not poise either. The use of Miss, Mr or Mrs will look good on them.

15. Your children don't say- 'Thank you' when they have been helped or served something. They don't know how to say "please" when they need someone for help; and you are cool with that. (Bad parenting)

16. When your children cannot stand children who are less privileged.

18. When they pick their nose with their hands.

19. When they don't wash their hands after visiting the washroom.

20. When your children take something from the fridge without taking permission. (Bad parenting)

21. When your children don't knock on closed doors.

22. When your children don't collect from your hands the stuff you brought in as you walk in through the door.

23. When your children request for a bribe to carry out their home chores or extra task. (That is disgraceful)

24. When your children act like their grandparents are irritating them.

25. When your children have not learnt to get up from the chair for the elderly or visitors to sit.

26. When your child tells a lot of lies. (You will both cry in the future if such is not put to check)

27. When your child asks "who is that?" at a knock on your door instead of "please, who is there."

28. When your child is always seated by your visitors when being served drinks etc.

29. When your children still point their fingers at other people.

30. When your children play and jump around when prayers are going on. (age 4 above).

Don't be a 21st Century parent who cannot correct a child. Train your child in the way of the Lord, so that when he grows up he will not depart from it.

IT IS BETTER TO LET YOUR CHILDREN CRY AT AN EARLY AGE WHEN YOU CORRECT THEM, IF NOT YOU WILL BOTH CRY AT NIGHT WHEN THEY BRING DISGRACE TO THE FAMILY WITH BAD AND TERRIBLE BEHAVIOURS

HAPPY EASTER