The Friend Zone Conundrum

According to Dr. Jeremy Michealson a renowned social psychologist, "the friend zone refers to a situation where there is a mismatch in romantic feeling between two individuals." for example this could be a sexual attraction mismatch, where one person is interested in romance while the other wants to "just be friends", other times it's an issue of commitment with already sexually involved persons.

Ultimately the friend zone SUCKS! It's like dying of thirst, while you are continually compelled (by your heart) to a river you can't drink from. And a fun fact about this interesting but yet brutal situation is (wait for it)...........................
"IT CAN HAPPEN TO ANYONE AND EVERYBODY. " I am of the opinion that even animals get zoned sometimes.

People end up in the friend zone for a couple of reasons, but the most prevalent is a base instinct called attraction. Some people sometimes make themselves unf**kable, they simple don't make their selves attractive enough. They most times create feelings of attachment/comfort without attraction like a "good friend"😑 without attraction, lust or seductive feelings. When you ought to be laying down hints and building sexual tension, you instead position yourself as a teddy bear to be cried on (ain't nobody wants to be with a cry pillow)

Am not saying you shouldn't be this things, am saying create boundaries and try as much as possible to become attractive both physically and psychologically, because by building your sex appeal you stand a better chance as being taken seriously as a lover.

Secondly another prevalent trait is most people who are friend zoned tend to devalue their attention by doing too much, overlooking their own needs and making it easy for the other party to overlook their feelings. Studies show that people value what they work for and in terms of social interactions have more respect and regard for people which they believe it took some effort to gain their attention. Be bold and assertive with you needs, and try to motivate a reciprocation of your emotional investment in your relationship.

In lieu of not boring you with all the numerous nuances of the friend zoned space, I'll quit right here. But my advice is don't settle for mediocre when you can have the Best.

I am @kboss hope to talk more about this later on. Hope you enjoyed reading.