Why do people feel very sad when they do not have money,do you think money is controlling our emotions?

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A lot of people have made the mistake of attaching their happiness to things like relationship, cars, a spouse, a wardrobe, money, children and lot more. In fact the things that make people happy are as much as the sand in the seashore. While there's nothing wrong with that, only a few persons have been able to survive past a few years after those things have been taken from them. People forget the simple things in life that money can't buy and for which they should be happy. It's no surprise that they act like the whole world is on their shoulders.

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Happiness too is a very relative term. The things that makes one happy may not excite another that much. While one is celebrating a promotion, another may think it is not worth it the celebration because the person has worked for it and so deserves it. While a new car may be the biggest thing for someone, it may not be for the one who thinks it's an old model. Truth is, life is in stages. Whatever condiments life offers us as an addition to our happiness tank should be embraced.

I understand that feeling when you have needs but lack the means to proffer solutions to those needs. It brings depression especially if you have people depending on you, like kids and a wife. It's worse off for a man's ego if the wife keeps reminding him of his mates out there who are doing better than him or children who keep pestering for school fees as they may have been out of school for a while. When you have a sick parent whose health is deteriorating because you can't provide the money needed for medication or hospital bills, it's saddening. There are several reasons for which people may not be happy. As different as human faces are, so are the reasons.

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But then, instead of feeling dejected and living in self pity, why not try your hands on a few jobs. Maybe it's time to dust your CV again and Polish it in search of jobs. If lack of money is the source of your happiness, then get a job. For regular jobs, you are sure to get a salary at the end of the month or when you've completed or rendered a service for freelancing jobs and others that pay hourly. But come to think of it. If money is the source of your happiness, then how much of it should you have to be truly happy? In what currency would you rather have it? As the economist would put it, "human wants are insatiable ". Do you know that the more money you have, the more problems you'll likely have and the more unsatisfied you'll become?

So you see why it is a risk to attach your happiness to money? What happens when that money is taken away? It takes along the happiness it brought. I'm not saying that you shouldn't work for money. I'm only saying you should grow above it, to the point where your emotions are no longer attached. Happiness is not just a mood or feeling. It is the attitude and disposition we choose to wear irrespective of what happens. Stop looking for happiness in a relationship, in a job, in a car or maybe the latest designer clothes. Happiness is inherent within us. It is not found. It is created.

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Don't allow your emotions be controlled by physical and temporary things. It could fly like a bird when those things are taken away from you. Attaching your happiness to things is the greatest form of imprisonment I've seen. I've seen people who have so much, yet unhappy because they are bothered by one thing or the other. I've seen people who are poor and yet happy. You don't need the whole world to be happy. You just need a grateful heart and a content spirit. It's easy to be grateful if you can think and reflect. It's easy to be content if you see how far you've come in a short while, how much you've achieved despite the challenges, where you are compared to where you started from. If you know how much people want to be like you and be in your position, you would live every day happy. Be happy where you are while working towards being better otherwise when you get to the next stage, you still might not be happy.

So, instead of looking at what you don't have, concentrate on what you have. You have life in health of spirit, soul and body, you should be happy. Some people's health have deteriorated with all the money they have. They can afford the best of medical care but they may have lost a chance to life. Others are in the prison for crimes they didn't commit but you are a free man. For some, their own prison is fear. Fear of the unknown. Some are even dead as we speak. What is life that we should live it worrying about things that are beyond us. We think so much that we lose our sanity. Take a break, take a chill pill and take life one day at a time.