3 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULDN'T TRUST SOME PEOPLE AROUND

Hello there my fellow STEEMIANS!
(I just want to share my thoughts about why you shouldn't trust some people around you. This blog is based on my experience, no hard feelings for some of you out there. I'm just sharing my personal point of view that's why i come up with three reasons.)

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Trust is both and emotional and logical act. Emotionally, it is where you expose your vulnerabilities to people, but believing they will not take advantage of your openness. Logically, it is where you have assessed the probabilities of gain and loss, calculating expected utility based on hard performance data, and concluded that the person in question will behave in a predictable manner. In practice, trust is a bit of both. I trust you because I have experienced your trustworthiness and because I have faith in human nature.We feel trust. Emotions associated with trust include companionship, friendship, love, agreement, relaxation, comfort.

1.They disappear from your life for days or weeks at a time with no explanation, and just reappear as though they were never gone.

People are not cats. They don’t get to come and go as they please without explanation. If someone you’re close to suddenly disappears off the face of the planet for an extended period of time and then reemerges with no justification (i.e. is actually Jason Bourne) then I think it’s safe to assume at the very least, this person is not reliable. At worst, they probably have a secret farm where they torture kittens.

1. They give backhanded compliments.

Anyone who backhanded compliments you, ESPECIALLY in front of a group, is subverting your shit, and will never be an ally. Backhanded compliments are a great way for insecure people to draw everyone’s attention to the thing about you that is awkward/weird/goofy/you’re self-conscious about. If someone is willing to passive-aggressively throw you under the bus like that, you shouldn’t trust them.

1. They bitch about their closest friends.

If someone is willing to say nasty things about their lifelong best friend you best believe they’re they’re coming for you too. What sometimes feels like another person is confiding in you–spilling the secrets, or snarking about the weaknesses of their friends–can often be a good sign that they’re not trustworthy. Sometimes we need a vent about the things our friends do that bother us, but there is a clear and distinct line between having a harmless winge and being downright mean about your friends. Learn it, and be able to identify it in others.

Better luck trusting someone, again.
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