RE: The Struggle to be Imperfect
To be perfect or to be imperfect. I've got my own theories on this and a lot of our own expectations have to do with commercialization and what people show others. Through many life experiences I've learned, unlearned and relearned that we are perfect just the way we are as long as we accept that we change and learn and grow from that. It's difficult living in the world we live in with so much pressure on being this media fantasy with a bit of this media fantasy and adding and taking away this or that. We can have goals. Goals are healthy and help us strive to move forward. Expectations are what kill us and our self esteem. As long as we have those unrealistic expectations we will never find happiness. Even if we reach what our fantasy looks like it will never be enough. We'll never be pretty enough. We'll never be good enough and we will never be happy because of these unrealistic fantasies we have in our mind. Some of those picture perfect people, especially since social media took off, aren't as great and well put together and most of all happy as they portray themselves to be. Inner peace and happiness are hard things to strive for when we have an unrealistic picture of what our lives should be. There are always other factors that change everything. I love that you wrote about this and your honestly and humility are enduring. Keep being you and keep being that version of yourself and you'll keep being perfect. :) Well written post
Thank you so much for your thoughtful response! It's definitely an important distinction to make, between goals and expectations, and I don't think I considered it carefully enough. After all, while we don't want to make unrealistic demands of ourselves, making no demands at all could be similarly discouraging.
agreed. One of my shortfalls is that I once knew and "realized" this. Somewhere along the way I've forgotten and unrealized it. I appreciate that your writing brought me back there at least mentally for a short time so maybe that memory can eventually spark a permanent realization :) #blessingsindisguise :)
We only see what other people want us to see. We don't really know what's really behind the scene. Perfection or imperfection it's all up to us. What we think we are. Be true to who we really are and happy as who we are.
absolutely :)I agree completely