Sex and relationships are not so different from economic models. There is an offer of people who are available to meet someone new and a demand of everyone who is looking for it. And just as the different markets behave, so that a balance is achieved and both phenomena are satisfied, it is necessary to know who the consumer is and how they behave. For this, you have to understand the specific needs of each one.

Let's take the example of a guy of about 33 years who has been in the position of his dreams for a couple of years. He works hard and his performance in the company is extraordinary. He has a good car and has just given the deposit to buy his first apartment. It would seem that it has everything, but our friend feels lonely. He thinks it's time to find a serious partner and settle down. The question is where. So he decides to start attending clubs filled with university students. Meet someone who is ten years younger than him. Invite this person to leave and everything goes well despite the age difference. The guy feels fulfilled and satisfied, however, he is aware that his partner's life is very different from his own, because while one is finishing the thesis, the other deals with millionaire budgets in an office.

 In front of this case, several questions arise: How much probability of success exists for this relationship to reach the port that the protagonist aspires to? Could it be that he found the love of his life or his navigation is on track, like the Titanic, to crash into an iceberg? Is age just a number or is it really a condition for the future?

Fortunately, for all those who are-or have been-in a similar situation, a recent study can reveal a lot of light on this. Emory University in Atlanta, analyzed three thousand people and discovered what we feared so much: the greater the age difference, the greater the probability of separation. Among their results, they found that couples who have a five-year gap between them are 18% more likely to thunder, compared to those who are of the same age; those that take ten years, have a probability of 39% of separation and those with twenty years, a resounding 95%. Numbers that are not encouraging for the type of our example.

Among their findings, the researchers also found the ideal age difference so that this is not a problem in the relationship. Couples who are one year old have only a 3% chance of separating. Of course, that does not mean that it is the formula of sentimental happiness, but that the age gap does not influence the breakdown of these relationships, as other components could.

 Now, these are only cold figures. A relationship is a multifactorial entity, so the union or dissolution of it is not absolutely linked to who was born first and how long before or after the other. The training of each member, their life experience and their personal interests are relative to their age, but not conclusive. A person of 26 may feel ready for a formal relationship and think of a family, while another person of 36 is barely deciding what to prepare for dinner when he arrives home at night.


Therefore, one must establish who their market is and what to expect from a spouse. By having greater clarity in that aspect of consciousness, in what we expect from a couple, in what our goals and expectations are, it will be easier to find it in the abyss of possible candidates. Age can serve to narrow the search, but never to define it.

 

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