yes true. we live in a commercial world where everyone is lost in object consciousness. Fortunately this story ends with her getting rid of the guy and returning to me. This happens after I let go and allowed the story to playout. iT did in that we both got nasty bacterial infections and put an end to the open part of the relationship. Now its just us. Love?? it has blossomed, but only if you remain in stillness enough to see it.