What is patriarchy? Is a patriarchy the same as a society led by men, or is it more, a society led by fear and a feeling of scarcity, that happens to be an environment in which the masculine takes charge?

What is patriarchy? Is a patriarchy the same as a society led by men, or is it more, a society led by fear and a feeling of scarcity, that happens to be an environment in which the masculine takes charge?

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Secretly I have hidden my answer in the title of this pondering session.
But I'm hoping you'll stick with me till the end anyway.

What is patriarchy for you?

For me it is a culturally formed social system based upon the belief in scarcity.

In other words: There is not enough and we are not taken care of.

When put like this it sounds a lot like a social system based upon a cultural abandonment wound.

Which I actually think it is.

How did this come to be?

It has a lot to do with the myth our western culture is based up on:The story of Adam and Eve.

One of the symptoms of modern patriarchic culture is that we don't give much value to stories, especially ones that the non-christian world has dubbed 'mythical', which is almost synonymus with 'made up' or 'non-existent'

The part of our being that stories work very strongly on is our subconcious/our feminine side. The biggest part of the iceberg that silently lives under water, which effects how we feel about life more then our logical mind does.

Eventhough patriarchy has taught us to think little of myths as they are part of our feminine legacy, in certain parts of patriarchy, this truth about the impact of myths and symbols on us is well known and purpousfully used to create strong emotions that are then used to manipulate people into supporting certain political beliefs.

I will include the story from the bible here for those of you that are not familiar with it. It's from the first testament of the Christian bible.
The content of the first testament including this story below of Genesis is also the religious fundament for the Tora of the jews and the Koran of the muslims. There are some differences between how the story is told in the Koran as oposed to how the story is told in The Bible and the Tora, but it is very similar.
What's interesting about that is that this is thus a very wide spread myth. Not only the christian world, but also the jewish and the muslim world have this story as their cultural/religious fundament.

So here is the story the way it is told in the Bible.

Genesis 3

(New living translation)

The Man and Woman Sin

1The serpent was the shrewdest of all the wild animals the LORD God had made. One day he asked the woman, “Did God really say you must not eat the fruit from any of the trees in the garden?”
2“Of course we may eat fruit from the trees in the garden,” the woman replied. 3“It’s only the fruit from the tree in the middle of the garden that we are not allowed to eat. God said, ‘You must not eat it or even touch it; if you do, you will die.’”
4“You won’t die!” the serpent replied to the woman. 5“God knows that your eyes will be opened as soon as you eat it, and you will be like God, knowing both good and evil.”
6The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit looked delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too. 7At that moment their eyes were opened, and they suddenly felt shame at their nakedness. So they sewed fig leaves together to cover themselves.
8When the cool evening breezes were blowing, the mana and his wife heard the LORD God walking about in the garden. So they hid from the LORD God among the trees. 9Then the LORD God called to the man, “Where are you?”
10He replied, “I heard you walking in the garden, so I hid. I was afraid because I was naked.”
11“Who told you that you were naked?” the LORD God asked. “Have you eaten from the tree whose fruit I commanded you not to eat?”
12The man replied, “It was the woman you gave me who gave me the fruit, and I ate it.”
13Then the LORD God asked the woman, “What have you done?”
“The serpent deceived me,” she replied. “That’s why I ate it.”
14Then the LORD God said to the serpent,
“Because you have done this, you are cursed
more than all animals, domestic and wild.
You will crawl on your belly,
groveling in the dust as long as you live.
15And I will cause hostility between you and the woman,
and between your offspring and her offspring.
He will strikeb your head,
and you will strike his heel.”
16Then he said to the woman,
“I will sharpen the pain of your pregnancy,
and in pain you will give birth.
And you will desire to control your husband,
but he will rule over you.c”
17And to the man he said,
“Since you listened to your wife and ate from the tree
whose fruit I commanded you not to eat,
the ground is cursed because of you.
All your life you will struggle to scratch a living from it.
18It will grow thorns and thistles for you,
though you will eat of its grains.
19By the sweat of your brow
will you have food to eat
until you return to the ground
from which you were made.
For you were made from dust,
and to dust you will return.”

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So we live our lives in the vibration of a myth about or origins, that tells us of abandonement.
And not only that, but we have caused this abandonement ourselves, at least the women did, we are guilty. And our men are guilty for not having kept us in check. Women are guilty for being curious.
For that, we were abandoned, left in a place that was harsh, where we were not provided for. There was no abundance and we had to work the earth and basically water it with our own sweat and women were hence forward punished with painful childbirth.

Well, what a sad story that is.
Does it resonate, do you recognise it as a story our values have been based upon?

Where does it come from?
Has it got any truth to it?
Do we want to go in to that?

I seems inevitable to do so, to get to the bottom of this. So here goes nothing:

It seems that slowly, slowly, people are starting to remember the long journey their soul has made over many lifetimes and the moment where the split from their wholeness happened.
Many similar stories are surfacing. Stories of alien interference with our DNA in a past far away. (The snake that seduced Eve.)
What might be a bit hard to digest is that different sources have remebered that it was indeed the women who were aproached, by the alien race, with pretty promises and misled into cooperating with something that would create a split in the settings of our human bodies. Bodies that were, before that moment, programmed for bliss, became programmed with fear of not belonging, not having enough, by being blocked from our originally divinely encoded dna, which some call 'original innocence'

So we were not sent from the Garden of original innocence, but cut off from a place of innocense, peace, wholeness and belonging within ourselves by having our dna encoded with programmes of ilusionairy seperation.

The event did not just create disharmony in ourselves, but also caused a rift between ourselves and the outer world. Between women and men and between people and animals, and people and our Earth Mother.
Eventhough She is still our Mother who'd happily provide for us, She is also an energy matrix, cocreating with our way of thinking.
She creates what our reality is. Is it abundance, she creates abundance. Is it scarcety, we will meet scarcety on the earth.

So this is a bit of what I believe is our history and not 'merely' a myth.
A believe system based upon a 'mistake' that led us to feeling abandoned.

A short and simplified recap of what happened since the rift:

What do you want to do when you feel abandoned by the Divine itself?
Huddle together?
And after that? Crying doesn't get you anywhere does it?
The way of the feminine is what got you in this shit in the first place.
So let's just stop feeling and start working. Logically find your way in this new unsuportive reality you are left in.
Stopping feeling, starting to use logic to strategically make your way in life, working with all you got for a better future created with your own hands are all very manly/yang qualities.

In this case mostly men took over in this new harsh reality as the way of the masculine seemed the only way out. Protecting women, creating a life for men and women, but also telling women what to do because the trust was broken. Or so it seemed.

What realy happened was that women had been misled, they had not been presented with truth by the aliens and did not have any experience with that.
So it wasn't really their fault either, nor was the feminine way, a way that led to disaster. It was a way that had kept humanity living in bliss for thousands of years. Wouldn't that make breaking the trust in the feminine way the most obvious and eficient way in messing humanity up?
Now we were all believing the lies:

Feelings are dangerous, logic is safe.

Hard work will be rewarded and is holy, relaxation and doing nothing is practically the same as inviting the devil. (We have a saying like that in Holland)

Sexuality is a sin because it is feminine and not our birthright to enjoy or our endless recevoir of power. Women's sensuality is therefore dangerous and shameful and her powers to concieve are too, why else would God punish her with painful childbirth. Menstruation is henceforward an icky bussiness and not a holy happening.

We'd best just all try to enjoy life as little as possible as we are sinners and maybe, just maybe God will then give us our daily bread. But we have to work hard for it.

In fact churches should spread the fact that:

'Women all are temptresses by origin and should be beaten daily to keep evil at bay.'

So that what happened (the orriginal sin) can never happen again.

But what we didn't know was, that this very way of life kept the 'original sin' alive.

Creating a split between feminine and masculine, by feeding into idea's of shame and blame and distrust and turning the sexes against each other.
This came about not only by the dna alterations but also because the story of the 'original sin was now our legacy.
No longer being able to easily form a bond in sacred union as a man and woman made us stand much weaker in life. Sacred union between an man and a woman is a very strong bond of trust and truth and bliss.
We've all been misled, not only the women. The men have been misled by buying into the whole story of shame and blame and mistrust of the feminine, facilitated by the new dna coding.
Their acces to their own feminine side had become blocked in the proces too, leaving them feeling miserably incomplete and longing for the feminine while at the same time fearing it.
The weakened bond between the sexes and seeing each other as the enemy was giving the aliens and counter forces exactly what they hoped for. Unhappy relationships with stagnant life force/sexual energy.
Siphening off of our energy of despair, making us into easy-to-fool-because-miserable-and-will-do-anything-to feel-better sheep.
And what was more: our personal recevoirs of power, our sexuality was left totally ungaurded because our lost wholeness was blamed on the feminine and all feminine qualities, believing our sexuality was sinfull.
Because we started to believe our sexuality was sinful our awareness was far from our sexual centres leaving them open to mingel with and siphen off.

The thing I am really wondering about is:

WHY DID NO ONE BLAME THE SNAKE?????

That is because the snake ( aliens/counter-forces) worked like the 'trickster'. Meaning we were tricked in our blind spot, where the light of our consciousness did not yet shine, resulting in us blaming ourselves and each other and giving the trickster all the fun.

'Why did any of this happen in the first place?' you might ask.

What's an interesting difference between the stories of the Old Testament/Tora and the Koran is that in the Koran it is said that Satan/counter-forces only exist by the grace of God. The snake was not in the garden by accident. Allah says people have been given free wil to learn to discern between what is good/bad, or a bit more nicely put between what's serving love and what is not. And the snake was in the garden of original innocence to bring the challenge.
(according to Masjid Al Muslimiin from: https://www.almasjid.com/content/story_adam_and_eve)

So maybe, when seen from a higher perspective it could have happened to create experiences, leading us on a roundabout towards consciousness and reclaiming our feminine ways.

Conclussion:
It has been more the 'masculine' then men in particular that has been leading since the time of the rift. And this has been a form of the masculine which has been distorted, this happened due to shutting down the feminine side, because of the abandonment wounding which occurred when the snake/aliens betrayed us and altered our DNA,
which was blamed on the feminine.

Each human has both feminine and masculine qualities, but that masculine qualities are in general ( there are exceptions) reached more easily by men then by women. As feminine qualities are usually more easily reached by women.

Since the alterations of our DNA, both men and women have been entertaining mostly their masculine qualities. The feminine qualities have been present, but under the surface as they were not honoured, leading to distortion of the masculine qualities. Because the masculine qualities can only be whole and thrive in an environment where the feminine is also honoured and allowed to thrive.

In the same way the feminine qualities can only thrive and be whole in an environment where the masculine qualities are also honoured and allowed to thrive.
But more about that next time with some hopefull messages in my coming article around the question of the week from ecotrain:

'What is matriarchy?'

I hope that wasn't too hard to digest for you.
Keep in mind that we are well on our way to reintegrating the feminine qualities and healing the abandonment wound.

Lots of Love Clara

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