How do you deal with people who speak ill of you behind your back?

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Hello friends

Life sometimes throws unexpected things at us as humans, sometimes they get us so upset but what can we really do?

Before I go in to telling you how I deal with people who speak ill of me behind my back I would like to share a real life experience with you all.

My Experience

Just two years ago, I discovered something that actually broke my heart. Someone that I have never had dealings with in any way. This person is just a person that says hello to me whenever our part cross.

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Just one morning I woke up at the sound of my phone ring tone, the caller told me that this particular person has been saying negative things about me. This caller told me she is surprised that's why she called to ask me if it was true. The things that was said was really bad.

After the call, I kept wondering what I did to this person that made her do what she did. I was really shocked. I thought of what to do.

How did I handle it?

That same evening I went for an event and I met this person who spoke ill of me. I pretended not to have heard what she said. She continued behaving normally with me as though I have not found out.

When I could not take it again, I asked that I speak with her and she agreed. We stepped out of the venue and I confronted her with the things she said at my back . I asked her if we have ever had any issues and she said no. After much talking she admitted that she did that out of jealousy.

She said she saw me as a competition and she wanted to spoil my reputation, she said she didn't like the fact that everyone likes me. I was shocked.

How do you deal with people who speak ill of you behind your back?

Over time, I have noticed that people who speak at your back lack the courage to say it at your presence. You are bigger than anyone who goes at your back to speak ill.

From the experience I shared above one of the ways to deal with people who speak ill at your back is to confront them. Instead of assume they did something it's better to find out yourself, by looking into their eyes confronting them you may just find out the truth and why they did what they

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Another way to deal with such people is to ignore them. Their words do not have weight as long as it was said at your back. Move on with your life. The person is only afraid of you.

You might also decide to cut ties with such person because they are dangerous. Speaking ill of someone at their back is regarded as not just gossip but also backstabbing.

Show them you are bigger than them by doing more of the opposite things they spoke about you. Don't change your good nature because of what people said. Many times in my life I have come face to face with situations that made me wish I could become a bad person and take revenge but I made the decision to remain the good person I am. You can try it too.

So these are the ways I deal with people who speak ill at my back. Thank you for reading