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RE: RobbieM: Why do women cling to men who don’t give a sh*t about them

in #life6 years ago

I read the post and I find myself agreeing with most things. One thing though left an impression that you probably weren't going for but shouldn't be considered nevertheless.

The phrase 'don't give a shit and it will be given to you' has actually some more truth to it than one might think at first. Taking it literally, one might find himself not actually wanting what he gets by not giving a shit, which is something I can absolutly agree on. If I want someone or something and work myself towards it, I feel a whole different kind of accomplishment while having shit thrown at me usually leaves me rather unsatisfied.

Both literally and figurtively.

I think that there is a good sweet spot between not giving a shit and working for something worth having. And everyone has to find it by themselves.

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I agree with your point. It seems this might be a guide for those that chase the ladies and kind of extreme attitude to take. For one I think both sexes are turned off when approached from an overly needy desperate person. It shows insecurity and potential for co dependency. I do agree with a lot of what is mentioned. I would just simply say never put yourself out there too quick and for the most part the ladies let you know. Don't hit the gas til you get the green light

Another piece of advise fitting to the topic is the importance of understanding and enjoying ones own life.

I know so many people who are entirely focused on wanting to be co-dependent with someone else to the point where they rather stick in unhealthy relationships instead of embracing the idea of fulfilling oneself for a bit.

I find that utterly unattractive. Why would I want to be together with someone who can't even bear being with herself? Love is a nice concept and all, but I want a relationship to make my life better, not needlessly more stressful, in a bad way.