Very well written post. I didn't have time to read all of it, but I thought the last three paragraphs were quite important, so I just wrote a shorter and simplified version for the gehenna of it.

It's important to remember that just because you pray for something, it doesn't mean you will get it. 'No' is also an answer, and even if you think you really need something, it may not be good for you in the long run. God can see into the future, and what will happen if he gives you one thing or another. So even if it seems unfair at the time, not getting something might be beneficial, you just can't see it.

A shame your post didn't get much recognition. I think I would recommend breaking up large posts into multiple parts, so people can read them fully without being overwhelmed by the information. Also consider putting in the Christianity tag, and maybe religion.