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i have tried being selfish, still doesnt aurgur well with me.

You just need time to either adjust to it or probably find something that works best for you. I see and use being selfish as an armor to shield me while I see music, events, and places as the go to places after the damage must have been done.

So it depends; do you want to keep treating and recovering from the damage or avoid it as much as possible?

I think i have to avoid it. Thanks