Well said! Have you ever heard of the book non-violent communication?
They speak much of their approach to the content of our conversations and how we should not let it control our mind.
Instead they suggest that we focus our attention on the need behind the content.
For instance, ultiamtely do things because we are trying to get our needs met.
We aren't terrible people if we've done something that upsets or hurts another because most often, this was never the intent.
We intended to get our needs met and through that, a conflict arose.
And thus, sometimes it helps to shift your mind to that place, especially when you're in conflict with another.
Asking yourself, "in what way was this person trying to get their needs met?" is a good place to start.
This seems to detach you from the conversation at hand and take a meta-perspective to it.
And when we take an elevated perspective to it, it often reduces the emotion that we associate with it, thus allowing us to see things more objectively.
Anyways, thought I would share that as it reminded me of something similar to what you were describing.
Thanks for sharing @theprism!
By the way I created a really fun post today. I'd love to hear your thoughts about it! 10 Highly Influential Things I Do Every Single Day [Part 2]
I have not read the book but I would definitely agree with what you've shared. Thank you and thanks for reading! I'll take a look at your post.