For me, it is more a reflection on my own shortcomings than his and I know that I am far behind the eightball at this stage of life.

Exactly! It's almost as if my father is acting as a mirror. I am not really seeing his shortcomings, but because of our similarities, my own. Many of the things that I see, he would not even regard as shortcomings. The fact that I do makes me feel a bit guilty, but I should not because what I am really evaluating is myself.

Anyway it is producing somewhat of a crisis of urgency for me right now. Kind of a shit or get off the pot mentality.

Anyway, enough of my rambling! Be well and don't be a stranger to your dad. Even when he doesn't "know" you, he "feels" you. I am going to heed this advice myself.

Thank you for helping me to see, even though you couldn't know that when writing and I don't know you or your dad.