Are fathers in your countries happy to have daughters?

This week I watched a Bulgarian series, surprisingly well made. The last series showed the life and lifestyle of a typical rich Bulgarian family in the past, more precisely, the beginning or the first quarter of the last century.
The father, having two daughters, while providing them with a good education, was actually doing this only so that he can trade them well - force them into arranged marriages that will be profitable for his business. Otherwise, he treats them like garbage. He even says about another person from his environment: God loves him after giving him two sons. (And he punished me to struggle with two daughters.)

Perhaps you think that this is some absolutely outdated stuff, something completely forgotten that belonged to a completely bygone and very distant era.
Basically, in Bulgaria it is accepted that the Bulgarians inherited part of the mentality, character, traditions and way of life from the Ottoman Muslims, being 5 centuries under their slavery.
Even in the movie, one daughter says to her father: "Why don't you put on the poturi and the fez?" (part of Ottoman men's clothing) To look completely Turkish, also in appearance.

But Turkish slavery is not something that passed away a very long time ago. It also did not end many years before the events shown in the film. It's only about 50 years. Then, to the present day, there is another century or so. But what is a century? Do you think this is an extremely long time? No. Programs that have shaped a mentality cannot be erased so easily. Especially when they incite themselves, over and over again, knowingly or not.

Because when I was born in the last quarter of the last century, even my father had said: No way! This can not be true. I'm not a woman's father.
My grandfather, his father, was obviously on the same level as I don't recall having any dealings with him while he was alive. I don't even have a single picture with him, he only had pictures with my brother. 😃

In my childhood and later in life, I met families with two daughters too. I always thought that their fathers suffered a lot for this. And I have always wondered how they live, what they think, if they torment themselves with thoughts all day long. Do they blame themselves for this "punishment" which is for life, do they blame their daughters for being born, do they blame their wives for not being able to bear them sons... After all, my father was "punished" only half - he still had one son.

I have also met men who said: I will make children until my wife gives birth to a boy.
And some were lucky with the third child, a boy after two girls. Others gave up making children after three girls. Because having a child in Bulgaria is still an expensive activity.

I would also say that the fathers attitude sooner or later transfers to the mother (as if she was never a daughter in the same situation). And so all attention and support, material and moral, is transferred to the son, if there is one, and the daughter quickly becomes a heavy burden that everyone wants to get rid of.
That is why in Bulgaria women even in their early 20s are already called with the insulting "old maid" if they did not manage to quickly marry someone (the first man they met, probably 😅)

And I also want to assure you that this happens in many intelligent families, so to speak, not only those who live their lives on a first signal level.
But what does intelligence mean, when people's lives and behavior are anyway guided by other things - programs, etc., absolutely unconscious, absolutely irresponsible, where intelligence plays no role.

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So how is this attitude in your countries?

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The photos I am showing you this time are of The Gramophone, one of the symbols of my favorite coastal city of Burgas. As always, taken by me.

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